Popular On Air Personality, OAP, Toke Makinwa, said parting ways with
her ex-husband, Maje Ayida brought her joy and had also afforded her the
freedom to know and relate with other men.
The OAP was speaking in an interview with Fame Extra Magazine, where
she talked about her dating life, misconceptions about marriage and
more.
The 31-year-old had filed a petition for decree of dissolution of
marriage to the Lagos state High Court against her husband, Maje Amaju
Ayida over adultery, cruelty and irreconcilable differences.
Recall that Toke’s 18-month-old marriage to Ayida hit the rocks when the latter impregnated his long-time girlfriend, Anita Solomon.
She disclosed that she cried for joy on her first date after the divorce, realizing she was single and dating again.
She said, “It’s tricky! It’s exactly like learning to ride a bike again but I think I am doing very well.
“Of course you get the initial stumble and fall off but the key is to accept that things are different now and that’s ok.
“My first date after my separation, I cried on my way home as I
couldn’t believe I was back dating again, the stress and joys of getting
to know someone again, the excruciating pain of the past and the will
to trust another again. I am having a lot of fun right now.”
Makinwa noted that so many people keep quiet and let things go wrong
in their marriage all in order to pretend that it is working.
The OAP added, “People are not honest enough! You are told to keep
quiet about everything like showing a sign of ‘all is not well’
automatically means you have a bad marriage.
“The thing is, everyone struggles, no situation is perfect and if
people walked around with a little bit of honesty about their situation,
a lot of marriages might survive.
“Religion is also a very big problem, God is involved in marriage and
he has also blessed us with the capacity to think and make decisions
for ourselves so people need to be less religious and more aware of His
love. There will be way less judgement.”
“So much goes on in a home and you are told to keep mute, keep
taking, pray till your knees get dark from kneeling (which is a good
thing, don’t get me wrong), but a lot of people lose who they are trying
to keep with all of these mandates that doesn’t always work.
“I am not saying you should go around telling everyone your business
but I feel if we had more people open up about their struggles and a
society that is less judgmental, people will begin to appreciate the
beauty of seeing two people work at staying together and realizing the
sheer amount of work required on both sides.”
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